Hi, it’s hard to be positive sometimes isn’t it? Now let’s ask yourself one question. Everybody’s been ranting about being positive but just how to be positive? Like how exactly? But here are some tips which I myself use so I can clarify to the proven effectiveness. But, before you continue reading, kindly read my previous post about how to be a happy teacher here. Clicked? Thanks so much. Terima kasih.
1. DETACHED YOURSELF FROM SOCIAL MEDIA
I am currently in the phase of doubting my choice of career.
I know I’ve been contemplating too much because I saw others doing better than I do. They seem happier than I am, wearing nicer clothes, shopping more than I do, travelling more frequent as I could remember me travelling and eat at fancier restaurant almost every moment I checked their profile, stories! Isn’t that painful? Emotionally yes.
But little did I know, in someone else’s eyes, I’m better than her. I just get to believe that they show only carpets of flowers for you to adore and be envious at and keep thorns and bushes for themselves.
Is it that hard to answer the how to be positive question? Nope! You have the power to deactive yourself for a while from that brutal virtual reality.
So, in 3, 2 aaaandd 1 – LOG OUT OF INSTAGRAM!
2. TELL YOURSELF THAT YOU’RE ON THE WAY TO YOUR OWN TRUMP CARD
My friend just recently published a book. A Grammar Journal. If you don’t know, I too (once) had a dream of doing the same. But! I delayed it. I made excuses, all the time to proscrastinate. Dreams don’t know how to wait! Dreams only know how to let’s go!
So, back to the book thing. I once have this thought inside me. “When you see your friend failed, you feel sad. But you too is going to feel sad when you see them succeed” You got my point there? What ever is happening to your friends, your neighbour, your cousins, its their own business. They only thing it affects you is your emotion! You don’t want that. You can envy them, but you are in no place to tell yourself “You’re all fucked up.”
So give yourself time to figure out what you can do to achieve the same. Think deeply on what you can do and have passion in doing so. Draft a plan and EXECUTE!
Oh you can get yourself a copy of the Grammar Journal here. DM my friend and support ya. Pleaaaseee….
3. SHIFT TO A NEW HOBBY OR ROUTINE
When I’m down and under the weather, I find hobbies helpful. I don’t know what you like to do to kill time, but for me, it’s them: Music, Movie, Inspirational Autobiography, Crocheting annddd
just recently Gardening take a spot there. I grow flowers in my backyard – they are petite, yellow and I can’t yet figure out their species. Everytime I see them budding, I feel satisfied. Accomplished!
Let me tell you the logic behind that. Every living things – let’s focus on HUMAN, is a creature who always crave for progress, movement, update! That is simply why Instagram, Facebook and even Youtube now adopt Snapchat’s feature : stories.
You want to see what you build progressed, what you plant nurtured and what you plan executed! Ain’t those right? And you too want to see what OTHERS ARE BUILDING, PLANTING AND PLANNING!
And ironically you want to know of their progress even though it might upset you!
But human are human after all. You will never get tired of shoving your concern about others. What to do ?
Easy! Shift that attention to something useful. Something new and fresh!
4. MAKE FRIENDS (PROFESIONALLY) WITH THE ONE UPSETTING YOU
Have you heard of colleagues talking trash about you behind your back? I had.
So did I feel sad? Yes.
Did I feel dejected? Oh yeah.
Did I feel like standing up? A.a. Nope.
Why? Easy. Wisemen say keep your friend close but keep your enemy closer.
I though don’t regard that colleague as enemy. Nope. Not that kind. But rather I will pretend like I don’t know about that trash thing. Logic? I want to win: emotionally. If I do the same, then I am no different. I don’t want that.
5. FIND YOURSELF A NEW COMMUNITY ( A GOOD ONE )
A Muslim scholar once said “Be like a river where water flows and not accumulated for accumulated water is prone to be contaminated.”
Being a woman ( pampered, scared and less productive outdoor ) I find it hard to mingle out with people outside my home. But I too know that to keep positivity on point, I need fresh air, new people and new views@perspective.
So just about 3 weeks ago, I joined an online community. AA Sisterhood. If you’re woman then you can request to be part of us! Yeay! The mastermind behind this community is the famous Aida Azlin (influencer from Singapore residing in Morocco) who regularly post her thoughts and views every week in her Youtube channel and websites.
Know what is so thrilling about this community? I get to receive a Love Letter every Tuesday in early morning. The last time I remember receiving them, it’s 7.30 am. I hadn’t even arrived at my office yet! Still driving and got notified through phone when stopping at traffic light. But the eagerness in me was growling!!!
Check out about AA Sisterhood here
So, am I answering your question on exactly how to be positive even when you don’t want to? Yes? Ahh…so relieved.
Okay guys finally it is time to stop typing and watch a movie. See you the next time. Thanks for dropping by and read till the end.
Love. Huge one.